Blame It On The...

Late last week, something very interesting happened. There was a forum for guys on my campus. JUST guys. I had never, EVER heard of something like that happen before. I dunno why, really. Maybe its the assumption that guys don't need to talk about stuff affecting them. Maybe we have it all figured out. Maybe...

The forum was called 'Take Her To Bed?', with emphasis on the "?". To tell the truth, I didn't see that part, much like a lot of the other guys present. Part of me was intrigued by how someone was going to talk about the finer points of "chipsing" to a college audience. But I digress...

The forum was really good. They talked about issues affecting men NOW, so it was real talk. The really cool Mavuno pastor (who's name I keep forgetting) talked about stuff ranging from what constitutes a real man, to why women are attracted to men in relationships (????). There were five points that constituted the 'Real Man', which I will post when I find them (@stiviz, sema hallelujah).

There's a very skewed view of men today. It seems we're the root cause of all problems these days: everything from pregnancy to power blackouts is blamed on us. Not to say there aren't some idiots out there, but the WHOLE male population? Surely not...

'Cool Mavuno Pastor' talked about two main things that have apparently led to the decline in 'real men': one is that there are no positive role models. The ideal man is portrayed as an irresponsible, violent, selfish, promiscuous animal after his own satisfaction. Couple that with the fact that most women seem to be attracted to those fitting the above stereotype, & you have even good guys seeking a change in attitude. Survival of the fittest, as it were.

Two: no one ever really takes time to talk to guys. Remember in primary school when all the girls would be called to a talk somewhere? Guys would be left in class making noise & wondering what was going on. Everyone assumes that these boys know what to do when they become older. THEN they are shocked when these same boys, now young men, make mistakes and can't correct them. Lest you forget, your actions are ultimately a product of your education. Book or life-wise.

So, if men are really as broken as people say we are, there clearly needs to be a change approach. So I applaud forums like "Take Her To Bed?" for trying to help young men in Kenya. If you won't be part of the solution, then shut up and deal with the outcome. That goes for males AND females.

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